"Stoney Silences": Headstones of Antigonish

Sample Epitaphs & Sample Obituaries

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"A golden summer day, with the bees humming from the scented clover, the fall sun looking down on field and town and two learned professors and a knight of the ink pot, in a tin Lizzie of uncertain age, hurtling over a country road amid green fields and groves and orchard lawns to visit a graveyard, to engage in a cheerful talk of 'graves, of worms and epitaphs." [Casket, undated]




Like tombstone motifs, epitaphs are also imbued with symbolic significance. Many late 18th and early 19th century stones are characterized by a chiselled severity which is echoed in their ominous inscriptions. “As I am now so you shall be, Prepare for Death and follow Me.” The message is blunt and direct. There is no varnished allusion to a blissful afterlife, only a stark reminder of life’s transience and the grim necessity of mortality. Early stones frequently included basic details about the name, age and profession of the deceased and sometimes elaborated on the manner of his or her death and some laudatory personal attribute. Throughout the 19th century, epitaphs became abbreviated expressions of “loss and salvation”, often excerpted from scriptural texts. “Gone, but not forgotten” or “May she rest in peace” were standard inscriptions. The wide-spread publication of primers on epitaphs contributed significantly to this uniformity. Increasingly formulaic epitaphs ceased to remark on the age of the deceased, their birthplace, the exact dates of birth and death or their more illustrious traits. Scholars have suggested that this phenomenon gave eloquent expression to the growing “depersonalization” of death throughout North America.

Sample Epitaphs

In Memory
of
John Blanchard
who died
Nov 26th, 1840
AGED 34 years
Respected by all
who knew him
St. James Cemetery



A memorial of
Mary Eliz. Bradshaw
Wife of
P. Flynn
who departed this life
March 17, 1869
aged 62 years
Dear as thou were and justly be
We will not weep for thee.
One tho't shall chick the starling
It is that...than art thee.
How lovely is they dwelling
place O'Lord of hosts to me.
St. James Cemetery



Our Little
Margaret
Gordon
aged 8 months
St. James Cemetery



Alexander MacDonald MD
a native
of The Isle
of Skye Died
Aug. 6, 1871 in His
89th Year
He was admired and
respected for his
skills and many virtues.
St. James Cemetery



I have waited
for they salvation
O Lord
ELIZA
Wife of the Rev.
A.W. Millidge A.B.
Sometime Record of
this Parish
and Daughter of the
Rev. EDWIN GILPIN
Rector of Annapolis
was born
Dec. XXX MDCCCXIX
and died
XIV Jan. MDCCCLVI
Beside her lies an infant daughter
MDCCCLIV
St. Paul's Cemetery



In Memory of Mrs. Elisabeth
Symonds wife of Nathaniel
Symonds Esqr who departed
this Life Septr 25th, 1808 in the
38th year of her age.
Behold and see as you pas by
As you are now so once was I
As I am now so must you be
Prepare for Death and follow me.
St. James Cemetery



Here rests the remains of
TIMOTHY W. HIERLIHY, ESQ.
Died 1830, age 76 years
and of
LUCY, consort to
Timothy Hierlihy
Died Aug. 1825, Age 73 years
BE YE ALSO READY
Town Point Cemetery



MARGARET HIERLIHY
Who left Time for Eternity
On June 30, 1829, Age 60 Years
BLESSED ARE THE DEAD WHO DIE IN THE LORD
Town Point Cemetery



CAPTAIN JOHN HIERLIHY
Died November 18, 1822
Age 55 years
Respected by his Profession
Esteemed by his Friends
Beloved by his Family
This Stone Placed Here by Them
In Memory of a Beloved Husband.
Town Point Cemetery




Sample Obituaries

"At Lower South River on Feb'y 8th, Eliza Chisholm, in the 87th, year of her age. The deceased was the first white female child born at the Lower South River." [Casket, 26 February 1891]



"Died Angus MacDonald (Sailor's son) at James River Mountain." [Casket, 1 May 1879]



"Donald MacNeil, Argyle, 'the bard of South River Lake' died at his home on April 11. He was 82 years of age, and had recently, with Mrs. MacNeil, celebrated his golden wedding anniversary. He was born on the farm where he spent his entire life, and upon leaving school became his father's assistant in his store and post office. Later he succeeded to the business, and was known as one of the leading shopkeepers of the district. An an early age he showed considerable musical talent, and for years he was singing master in the neighborhood. Mr. MacNeil had done considerable good work in writing historical sketches of his district, and these he was making preparations to have published in pamphlet form, when striken with illness that proved fatal." [April, 1924]



"McPherson--At Upper North Grant on the 7th inst., in the 80th year of his age, Alexander McPherson (carpenter). Only a few months his estimable wife predeceased him. Of a kind, cheerful and genial disposition, he never made an enemy or lost a friend. Consoled and fortified by the Sacrament for the dying, he calmly and peacefully passed away to his eternal home, in faith strong and vigorous. A daughter, Mrs. Rodden, of Dover, N.H. and two sons, one in Neponset, Mass, the other on the old homestead, have the sincere sympathy of the community in the loss of so kind and dutiful a parent. During his life he built over two hundred coffins free of charge; now he lies in his own awaiting the glorious resurrection. May his soul rest in peace."[Casket, 17 May 1900]



"At Malignant Brook, on Friday March 6th. in the 91st year of her age, Catherine relict of the late Andrew MacGillivray. the deceased was noted during her long life for her good motherly qualities and kind and gentle disposition. She left a large family and wide circle of friends and acquaintances to cherish the memory of her many christian virtues."[Eastern Echo, 12 February 1891]



DIED" At the Hollowell Grant on the 9th inst., Mr. Hector McNeil an old and respectable inhabitant of that place. Aged 65 years." [Casket, 9 October 1856]



"At Vanceboro, Maine, on the 19th of March, and in the 43rd year of her life, after a brief illness, Jane, the beloved wife of Mr. Duncan Mcdonald (Ban) and daughter of the late Alexander Kennedy, Ohio. In her life the lamented deceased fulfilled faithfully and well the triple function of a good daughter, a good wife, and a good mother." [Aurora, 4 April 1883]



"Died. At the Back Settlement of the South River, on Monday, 13 inst., Hugh MacDonald, fourth son of John Ban MacDonald, aged 31 years. The deceased was a young man of most exemplary and unexceptionally good character, and, suffering, for many years from a disease, the fatal result of which he anticipated, he was always prepared to meet the only Supreme Judge. In his youth he was inoffensive and kind: in his manhood, beloved and respected. May he rest in peace." [quoted in R.A. MacLean, The Casket, From Gutenberg to Internet: The Story of a Small-Town Weekly, p. 21]



"...relief of the late Nathan Pushie [she died on May 5, 1853, at the age of 105] who was trumpet major on the staff of General Washington in the Revolutionary War of the United States; and who died at Onslow, on his return from the United States in 1838, after having been admitted a revolutionary pensioner and having received back pay for a number of years. The deceased was the first white woman who came to this part of the county having settled here in 1784. She was, shortly afterwards, married to her late husband by whom she had a family of ten children; the most of whom are now respectable inhabitants of this county. The deceased was born in Ireland but came to America in early life; and was first married to a man named Porter by whom she had one son, who if now alive would be upwards of eighty years of age. She was through life proverbial for her generosity and kindness; and where sickness, amongst the first settlers of this new country was found, she was rarely absent, and contributed, even beyond her means, to aid the poor and suffering. When the country was without roads and the great depth of snow, in the winter season, seemed to offer insurmountable difficulties to travelling, she would often be found travelling on snow shoes to minister to the sufferings of the sick. She has, on some of these occasions, been known to take clothes off her own back and put them upon those of poor persons, whose sick condition required more than they had means to provide. She attended at the birth of more than a thousand persons, in this county, by whom, with her other friends, her memory will long be deeply and gratefully cherished. Her descendants number 147, being ten children, seventy grandchildren and sixty-seven great-grandchildren" (The Casket, 19 May 1853, quoted in R.A. MacLean, The Casket, From Gutenberg to Internet: The Story of a Small-Town Weekly, p. 17]



"Probably there never assembled at a funeral in a country parish in this Diocese so large a concourse of people as escorted the remains of the lamented Fr. William to Heatherton on Monday last. There were 106 carriages and many people were on foot. Yet only a small fraction of Fr. Wm's friends were there." [Aurora, 20 February 1884]

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